Regardless of any challenges and setbacks life brings me, I try to think positively. This week did not start out smoothly for me. I tried to maintain a positive mindset when impolite, unreasonable people kept popping into my day via e-mail or direct messages. I didn’t like the flow of my week and made an effort to pivot my thought patterns whenever I caught myself getting annoyed or upset.
I like to take these eight points, inspired by a post on Happy Publishing and apply them to any bumpy situations I experience – like the ones that occurred this week — and to my walk of life in general.
Check out these simple rules that, with practice, carry potential to produce peace and happiness. Again, thank you to HappyPublishing.com for inspiring these timeless tips:
Keep your mind well stocked with constructive thoughts.
Not just this week, but also any week — even when you’re on vacation. Stuff can, and often does, happen. By rehashing any uncomfortable events in your own mind or even sharing the experience with your closest friends, you can begin the process of polluting your own peace and that of those you love.
I’m still working on this one. I do state beforehand, “Please give me three minutes to kvetch,” but after contaminating my thought process and my friends’ space, what does it really serve? It doesn’t truly enhance either party.
They’re just tired old issues played out by new people in different scenarios. Does your energy get depleted after your rant? Mine does. Practice careful self-awareness the next time you put yourself through this process. I’ve found that, for me, it’s not so enjoyable.
When I do remember to draw upon my stores of constructive thoughts, I meditate or go for a walk and, while many times it doesn’t resolve the situation, it calms me down and gives me time to reflect. This cooling off period has helped me to avoid escalating the situation and simply move on.
When you take quiet time for yourself, many times, the silence will bestow you with a gift – a remedy to the situation. If it doesn’t, just don’t go down that road again. Learn from your mistakes.
Look for the beautiful and pleasant things in life.
We complain about the smallest things, at times. Instead of seeing every tiny negative, let’s focus all the blessings of each day. If you keep looking for the bad things, they will accumulate and pepper your life with negativity. If you search for the good things in every situation – no matter how small – the Universe will reward you by adding to those blessings with more of the same.
Adjust yourself to whatever happens in life and truly make the best of it.
I find letting go and stepping away helps mitigate any collateral damage that could arise from uncomfortable situations. I am not saying to become the proverbial doormat. I’m advising that we take the choice that works best for our individual situations and move on!
I like this quote and it’s so true.
“You don’t need a reason to be happy, just a choice.” ~ JL Huie
Have no regrets — live in the present instead of the past.
Yes, do the best and learn from your lessons. I sometimes say, “Gosh, I could just kick myself! Why did I do that?” Well, that means the experience represents a lesson; one that tells me I need to listen to my intuitive voice the next time a similar situation presents itself.
You’ll begin to feel it with practice. It’s actually a palpable and physical feeling for me. Something just doesn’t feel right. I can’t always put my finger on exactly what doesn’t sit well with me, but I just know things don’t add up.
Hone in on your intuition and resolve to get better at it. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Give every man a square deal, whether he be prince or pauper.
Yes, I try to practice this every day. Don’t forget to also include yourself in this point. I tend to have a soft heart and sometimes people can take advantage of that. That said, have a soft heart, but a wise mind.
Do your job, no matter how humble it may be, with the best efforts you can give.
Yes, and when you work with others, your level of professionalism and your expectations do not always coincide with the individual with whom you partnered. Do the best you can with the situation at hand; then move on and go forward. Team yourself up with people that understand you and will help you grow.
There’s a reason why things didn’t go smoothly. You may never know the real reason. Instead of rehashing on it, learn your lesson and tackle the next fun project with zeal!
Do something for someone every day.
Practicing this point will amaze you. Even the smallest thing you do for someone else – without expecting anything in return – will result in unfathomable abundance of karma. The intangible return on investment to you is priceless.
Have faith in yourself, your fellows and God.
When you have one of those days…breathe and say, “All is well,” and even send love and wish blessings upon the person causing you angst. Untold blessings will rain down on you as a result.
Believe me, this isn’t always easy. Keep practicing and listen to that voice, yours!