If you have a choice to be happy or angry, which would you choose? \u00a0Obviously, most of us want to be happy and choose the first one\u2014but it’s not always easy, I know.\u00a0 Sometimes people do things that you don’t understand\u2014perhaps they’ve had a rough life, or even just a rough day.\u00a0 When we react to a situation that is negative, it only grows and festers in our minds and hearts.\u00a0 So what can we do?<\/p>\n
Eric Allenbaugh said \u201cYou teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot change other people, you can influence them through your own behaviors and actions. \u00a0By being a living role model of what you want to receive from others, you create more of what you want in your life.\u201d<\/p>\n
When I see negative posts or images on my social media pages, I hit the un-follow button because I really don’t want that energy in my stream, and especially not in my life. \u00a0So what happens when it comes from a co-worker or a friend? \u00a0Even when I try to work through it, I find that there are times you can’t change their behavior. \u00a0I work well with people who are accountable for their actions because it ensures professionalism. \u00a0I need people who I can count on and complement my team. \u00a0If they\u2019re also smart, sensible and low maintenance, that\u2019s a bonus.<\/p>\n
When you accept a negative behavior over and over from someone, you enable them to continue with habits that don\u2019t serve your relationship. \u00a0You are telling them that it’s okay to be late, it’s okay not to show up for our appointments, and it\u2019s okay to be disrespectful. \u00a0Sometimes you can’t influence positive change, and when that happens to me, I move on. \u00a0They will have to figure out what happened, and hopefully that realization will make them into a better person for themselves and their new associates.<\/p>\n
I make an effort to post mindful quotes or articles on my social media channels, and it\u2019s great that quite frequently people express gratitude for the timely share. \u00a0 The quotes or photograph I chose to share is sometimes affirmation for myself. \u00a0I use it to change my thoughts and emotions\u2014hopefully towards the positive. \u00a0It’s been a work in progress over the last few years.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve found that in relationships, setting boundaries is key. \u00a0It takes so much more of my energy to be negative and angry. I\u2019m not saying that you should walk away from every negative situation that you encounter, as good relationships are defined by how you work together through the ups and downs. \u00a0But if perhaps we could be mindful of how we react and think of the consequences. \u00a0Is it worth your energy?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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