Is this about You? It’s not personal. This blog has featured a few articles on how to get noticed on Twitter or how not to get noticed on social media. To branch out to new topics, here are some points on not taking social media so personally and being authentic in your approach.
Many use social media to expand their social circle or grow their businesses. Try promoting others and sharing others’ content in addition to your own. In time, you will see the results of the fruit of your labor (in the form of reciprocity).
It seems to be common for some to send their blog posts, tweets or articles to others with a request for the information to be shared. If someone doesn’t respond to you after you send them numerous requests, take a step back and reassess your writing. Hounding someone to share your content isn’t going to move it any faster.
A more effective tactic in driving more traffic to your site is to work hard to provide substance to your readers.
For example, when working on a campaign, think of it’s bigger picture. Yes, we want to be part of a successful initiative or event, but remember that there may be other details that are more significant. Your passion for your work will show through your actions, tweets or posts.
By taking these ideas into effect, you won’t need to clog peoples’ in-boxes with share requests.
If you have a pre-arranged agreement, that’s fine, but consider dialing down the requests or eliminating them altogether, especially if someone has asked you politely several times to stop.
Oftentimes, such a request is not personal, but rather due to the volume of inquiries, and they may not have enough time in the day to read through various peoples’ requests assessing whose content to share.
Similarly, I see numerous “top 10” or “top 100” recommended people lists for certain categories.
Sometimes, I don’t always agree with them, but if I see many familiar names on there, and I happened to not be mentioned (which happens), I don’t Direct Message the author and ask why I wasn’t featured. It’s their personal choice, and it’s the blogger’s choice who he or she wants to include on each particular list.
You may not be mentioned on every list, but if you remain persistent and genuine, you will eventually be noticed. Don’t be offended if an event, conference or a post doesn’t mention you. Understand that some events are business functions tailored to a specific audience. Be genuinely supportive of others and allow them the opportunity to shine.
I think that when you share a list to promote friends, if you agree with the mentioned names (and aren’t just posting them without merit), when it’s your turn, they will be more than happy to reciprocate. Why not be happy for your friends and supporters?
As I mentioned before in several of my posts, I try to introduce a new friend in my Twitter stream each day. I do this by posing a question, and inviting ten guests to respond to introduce them and their feedback to my blog. You never know where the connections may lead you.
I adore Peggy Fitzpatrick’s positive energy and would like to introduce you to Peggy if you aren’t already following her and share her posts with you. She has a noteworthy recent post entitled, “Can You Please Share This?”
When you help spread others’ messages and are authentic, people will be happy to promote you voluntarily.
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”— Warren Buffet
To me, it’s so much more endearing to be humble than to be demanding. I like to promote people with fewer followings. Do you remember the first time you were re-tweeted? I do ツ Think about others first and see what happens. Is it worth being upset about the little things?
Just remember, social media and life are better when you don’t take everything personally.